ShareThisRemove the works "Not", "No", "Won't" and "Don't" from my conversation
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Created Aug 21, 2009
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Shift my thinking from negative to positive. Every time I catch myself using one of these words in a sentence, I will try to reframe the sentence and ask "What do I want?". For example: "I don't want to sit in this heat all day." I will ask myself "What do I want?" New sentence: I want to find a nice cool spot for the day. |
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If I can change my attitude to feel happy and empowered. If I can better express what I want. |
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Will try for 1 week and see if it becomes a natural part of my conversation. |
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I will try to feel good about catching myself (vs. feeling negative). |
Comments & Observations
Liza Cunningham I am amazed by how often I use these words! Its shocking.
Aug 21, 2009
Matthew Cornell Looking forward to hearing your results.
Aug 21, 2009
Liza Cunningham I am finding this to be a great exercise for asking myself "what do I really want here". It gives me better clarity.
Aug 22, 2009
Matthew Cornell I like the turning it around idea. When I find similar negativity or even an outcome I'm hoping for ($2000 ebook sales the first month it's out, say) I replace with "I LOVE the idea of selling $2000 worth of ebooks". It's a little subtle, but the latter I totally align with, and has built-in success.
Sep 01, 2009
Liza Cunningham Interestingly, now I hear everyone use these words all the time. Its hard to tune them out. Th upside is that I am so much more careful about my word choice (much more positive, less sarcasm). After all, I want to make other people feel good in conversation. I am just realizing now how negative I sounded (even when I thought I was being positive). So this small shift makes a big difference my energy. Interesting observation: how often people say "No, no, no" before agreeing with something you say.
Sep 05, 2009
Liza Cunningham By shifting my thoughts from negatives, I find I return to the same question and ask myself: "So what do you want?" which has been very interesting and forces me to think about taking charge of my environment and getting clarity. I realize now how often I was "commenting" on the past rather than focusing on desired outcome for the future. Fascinating! And I think I am done.
Sep 16, 2009
Matthew Cornell Good insights, and well done, Liza. I've started catching myself when I'm negative, and just briefly, turning it around. It's a low-level experiment, infected (positively) by you - yet again. How will you celebrate? Not having cake you don't like and won't try again? ;-)
[Note: We need a catchy phrase or expression that means. "Good experiment!" Edison-ified?]
Sep 17, 2009